My Goals Aren't Your Goals But We'll Both Be Okay
My mom always made grill cheese sandwiches in a toaster oven. We didn’t have a toaster oven when I married and moved out so I made grill cheese in the oven on broil. My husband blew my mind when he cooked his in a skillet. A skillet of all things! Turns out cooking a grill cheese in a skillet isn’t wrong. In fact, as I’ve discovered, many people cook their grill cheese in a skillet. It’s for sure different than my toaster oven method, but not wrong. Seventeen years later we n


What You Need to Know About Your Perfectionist Friend
I’ve been beating myself up for months over something I hard I needed to do. I called myself weak and let the anger and resentment simmer just under the surface. A few people close to me knew, but most people saw the smiling, have-it-all-together Hilary. This week things came to a head and I had to do the hard thing. Afterward I replayed the scenario in my mind a couple dozen times. What could I have said better? How could I have handled it more professionally? Why did I wait


Monday Confession of a Type A Personality
I saw this graphic on Pinterest one day: This empowers and motivates me. I’m a “Type A” personality. I need to be busy. I started my own marketing agency at the age of 30 because I was bored. I wrote my first novel because during the early years of my marriage I was home alone on Saturdays. I plan activities for the weekends and even try to keep the weekday evenings filled. If I have an appointment at 10 that should take an hour I’ll plan lunch with a friend at 11:30 and anot